I Don’t Believe In Self Improvement Anymore
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Personal Development Disbelief
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No I haven’t lost my mind and shunned self improvement from my life. But I’ve had a huge realization over the past 2 days that has taken me to a new way of inner wealth and I think you may benefit from as well.
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I was doing some twitter research and I came across an ah-ha moment where a young woman was saying she wanted to start doing more self improvement but that she had a lot to work on and that she didn’t know if it was worth it.
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Well first off that’s kinda sad to think that you’re not worth the effort but more importantly it’s sad that she would use the words self improvement as a reason NOT to do the work.
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Well no wonder! I had an epiphany as to why.
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The stigma around the actual words self improvement kinda annoy me I’ll admit. Mainly because of the fact the words imply to a person who isn’t on the inside of this industry that, “you’re not enough, you need improved upon.”
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Here’s the news flash. You already are enough! There’s a new way of thinking that Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra & other spiritual leaders have already figured out. Ok, so maybe it’s not so new but hopefully you get the point.
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Here’s why she would think that she’s not enough.
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Pealing Away The Layers Of “Stuff”
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You see as I’ve been reading more about my inner success influencing more of my outer success, I’ve come to realize I am already everything that I require in order to lead an amazing life. It’s only been covered up by layers and layers of negative thoughts, regrets, worries and concerns of what other people think of me.
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Which of course I got from parents, grown ups, friends, teachers etc while growing up.
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My challenge as well as hers is that there are layers of stuff, i.e. memories, that I simply require to peel away and disregard so that I am able to live more authentically as my true self.
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Now sure there are going to be people and communication skills that I can learn and apply to my every day effectiveness when I engage people, but do I as Tony Teegarden require any more work? NO. I require only to nurture my spirit and being, not improve upon it!
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What can be improved upon is my communication skills with my fellow man and woman.
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Now call me wacky and dress me up funny but this is a huge break through for me. Because had the young woman had the same understanding that she as a person or her self is already amazing and fantastic and that only her skills required work, she wouldn’t have given up before she even started!!
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She as a spirit and human being doesn’t require any working on. Only nurturing. She only needs to shed the years of negative self talk, negative beliefs and thoughts to allow that beautiful child to shine through once again.
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**That doesn’t improve her self it only reveals her self!!**
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Can you picture this for yourself right now? Living with zero regrets, worries or negative beliefs about who and what you actually are? You are an amazing being with beautiful energy. Just take off that human suit and know it! Man that’s exciting!!
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The Work That “IS” Required
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The work comes by way of acknowledging your past experiences. Being super honest with yourself and probably others around you about what you have done said or been. That means pulling the skeletons out of the closet.
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That can be scary and work unto itself however I can assure you it’s one of the most liberating and spirit freeing exercises or processes that you can experience. Steve Pavlina wrote a great post about how to share your shame that may help you through this process.
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It just helped me understand my work required is to eliminate and let go of the layers of garbage that I have accumulated over the years. This way I live authentically and I don’t self sabotage myself in my wealth creation efforts. 
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What To Walk Away With
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What I hope this brought you was a new way of thinking about who you are and how absolutely amazing you really are already. (Yes read that again)
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That you as a person can start every day and every moment with a fresh new slate. That your skills required to more effectively communicate with others and gain your desired outcomes are not an improvement upon your self but are tools you use to allow your spirit to have more amazing experiences with others.
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Keep in mind I’m not a mental health professional and you shouldn’t listen to a damn thing I have to say. All I’m saying is that this post could crack the door open to a whole new way of inner and out wealth for anyone who is open to reading it and starting the journey.
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I’m not so sure about you but I don’t want anyone telling me I’m not enough or I need to be improved upon. If they did I’d tell them first off to kiss my ass and that I rock. (Ok maybe not quite in those words)
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Also this realization I’ve had in no way, shape or form means that I don’t believe as a human being I won’t improve my people skills, my education on specific niche topics or my ability to engage more efficiently with my fellow man or woman.
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The realization is that you as a human being are not a human doing. Which means all of your past transgressions are to be let go, forgiven and worked through because that’s not really who you were or are.
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You are amazing and should think of yourself as nothing less. You will want to nurture your self and love your self to no end.
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Peel away the layers of “stuff” that isn’t you and let it go. Zero Limits by Joe Vitale or Real Magic by Wayne Dyer have been wonderful tools to allow me to embrace this idea and begin to live it.
They may work for you too but only your true self can be inspired to find out.
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